Life Interrupted Today!
By Danita A. Scott
I was that woman that could check off all the boxes; great career, happy family, amazing friends, strong community connections, higher education but I was missing something. From everyone else point of view I looked like I had “it all” how could this possibly not be the life that I really wanted? Underneath the surface I knew this was not the life that I signed up for. I was struggling so bad it hurt. Sometimes I just wanted to throw my hands up and let someone else lead my life. I kept thinking at some point it was going to just click I would walk into the life that I was meant to have. You know the one where all of my hopes and dreams would be realized.
The one where my student loan debt was gone I had and I could enjoy my job, pay all of bills that damn American Dream I signed up for! I did my part when is “it” just going to work for me. Instead I felt constant pressure overwhelm, stress, and the anxiety was almost a friend. I had to met everyone’s needs but my own. I reached a breaking point where I could no longer live life on anyone’s terms.
I needed freedom. But who in the hell lives a fantasy life of freedom? BUT wait did I mention I had $109,000 dollars worth of student loan debt going after “my pipe dream” of making any major life changes would involved more than just me. I couldn’t just quit my job and do whatever. Trying a new imaginary life is something only the foolish or the rich can afford to try. I have real bills, obligations and couldn’t just run off into the sunset and create a “new life” or could I? In March of 2017 I found myself at 38 years old with $109,000 of student loan debt turning in my two week notice. (I have to keep mentioning this because they told me if I got the degrees it would all work out THE LIES!)
People kept asking me what are you going to do…..humm… almost anything but this. All that knew I wanted to become a speaker and a life coach but how in the hell do you make money off that? What l do I need next a website, headshots, Social Media, a blog, speaking topics, call some people and say I’m a great speaker you should hire me. I decided that was a bad plan. Instead I hired an amazing business coach to help me with the day to day operations of my business. I and took the leap into entrepreneurship andlet me tell you it’s been scary, life changing, and worth it. I took the leap and can too! Don’t go quit your job run off into the sunset…instead don’t give up on your dreams and start to create a plan for freedom.
If ANY of this resonates with you, I suggest you allow yourself to step off of the treadmill of life and start to embrace the life that you truly want. When I started to unravel the chaos of my life I started by receiving mercy and accepting the help that I needed. This is how I started to create the life I wanted:
- I let go of mistakes
- I accepted my imperfections
- I let of comparisons
- I watched my words
I letting go of being ashamed of making mistakes
I not longer feel ashamed and annoyed by my mistakes! I was born to grow and make mistakes. As an adults we can think too deeply about making mistakes I made a choice to be free from this. I reminded myself that everyone makes mistakes, has scars, or feels inadequate at some point in their lives. I avoided dwelling on these facets of my life.
I accepted my Imperfections they making me interesting, special, and unique.
It’s time to accept them instead of fighting them.Loving myself, including my imperfections, doesn’t mean that I didn’t have self-improvement goals. I always strive to strengthen my good qualities and develop skills and characteristics that improve my life while loving the person I am .
I let go of the comparisons. Spending time comparing myself to others, is a waste and it was time to stop. My journey is unique I’m not on the same path as anyone else. Instead of comparing yourself to someone else, focus on me first so I learn to lead myself first. I pay attention to my victories celebrate my accomplishments, and look forward to a bright future with my own goals. I had to remember I am not broken. It’s tempting to view setbacks as permanent, but focus on overcoming them. Challenges are a part of everyone’s life, so there isn’t something inherently wrong with me because I have obstacles.
I Pay attention to what I say to myself. There is a direct link between self-talk and your health and mental wellness.
When I notice you use negative self-talk I stop it in it’s tracks. When myinner dialogue makes me feel inferior, ashamed, or guilty. I shut it down! I don’t want my words to create more pain and suffering!
I have learned to forgive myself and be gentler and kinder to me. Each time I say something negative, immediately change it to something positive, instead. I learned how to love myself from inside and out. As a result, my self-confidence increased, and I gained greater peace.
If you want to truly go after the life that you want you may need help I am here to do just that. I help highly successful women to remove the mask of perfection, fear and anxiety; by powerfully disrupting the dysfunctional parts of life, I help women to embrace their authentic selves so that they can break and deploy boundaries of limited thinking. On September 28, 2017 at 8:30pm EST I am having a webinar for women that are looking to start creating the life they want. If you want to join go to www.lifeinterrupted.today